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Ego or Confidence? Reflections from a Tentative Heart


A 77-year-old retired schoolteacher presented to the neurosurgery outpatient clinic to go over her lumbar spine MRI results. After looking at the computer screen for a matter a seconds, one of the leading spinal surgeons in the country turned to me and declared the diagnosis: “Spinal stenosis. There is nothing I can do for her. She is elderly, has a weak heart, and a smoking history. The risks are too great.” We went into the room together and relayed the news that there would be no surgery to help her back pain. “Any other questions?” asked the surgeon. “No, I guess not,” replied the clearly distressed patient.

As soon as we exited the room, I asked, “What about acupuncture?” He looked at me and smirked, “I’m a DOCTOR. Why would I recommend that?” “Wel l… there’s a large amount of evidence pointing to acupuncture’s benefit in lower back pain…” I tentatively responded, wondering whether or not I should have just kept my mouth shut. “Those alternative medicine people are all a bunch of charlatans, trying to get your money,” he replied, ignoring my previous statement. I stopped pressing any further, realizing the next comment out of his mouth would probably be, “I know best.”

During an integrative medicine elective rotation at the University of Arizona in Tucson, we had one class session with a neurosurgeon who also practices equine therapy. He welcomed us to his farm where he trained horses — not to be ridden, but to help people understand themselves better. “I need a volunteer,” he said, as the group walked up to the pen. I raised my hand, and he let me in the gate. I had never ridden a horse before and had maybe just touched a horse once as a child, so to be standing in an enclosure with just me, the doctor and the horse, and all my classmates watching, I felt a little nervous to say the least.

The exercise was simple: guide the horse by the reins, walk in a circle, and then come to a stop. When the neurosurgeon demonstrated, the horse obeyed quite nicely. But while I was able to walk with the horse, when I stopped on the first three attempts the horse kept walking past me, ignoring the fact that I was no longer walking. “Now,” said the doctor, “stop with a sense of confidence and gentle firmness.” I took a breath and tried one more time … and the horse stopped. “Now, knowing how sensitive horses are to a person’s state of mind, imagine how sensitive another human must be.”

Medicine has a culture unto itself: a way of speaking, a way of thinking, a way of making decisions. And as with any culture, those who come from outside of that environment may experience “culture shock.” As a medical student in his final year looking back, I am only now becoming comfortably assimilated enough so that I can take a step away from this adopted culture and see where and how I wish to stand in my future practice. For me the line between timidity and egotism is a part of this culture with which I struggle, almost daily. How do I walk the tightrope of confidence without falling too far in one direction or the other?

I do not suppose to have the answer to this question, but perhaps we might consider how we “acquire […] the grace of humility,” as Sir William Osler once described. With more and more experience in this medical profession, it is only natural that we acquire the tools needed to bring health and healing to our patients, and I am so honored to have begun my journey towards mastery of medical knowledge and wisdom. But perhaps the tightrope will not seem so narrow if we practice medicine with a blend of confidence and humility.

Vincent Minichiello Vincent Minichiello (4 Posts)

Columnist Emeritus

University of Massachusetts Medical School

Vinny is a Class of 2013 student at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, applying to family medicine residency programs. Passionate about strengthening the body's own healing mechanism, he is invested in learning more about integrative medicine and hopes to practice family medicine in combination with Chinese medicine and osteopathic manipulation therapy in the future. He loves his fiancée dearly and is looking forward to their marriage in May 2013!